242 - Queer Theology with Brian G. Murphy

242 - Queer Theology with Brian G. Murphy

This week, we're joined by Brian G. Murphy to discuss queerness and polyamory in Christianity. We're focusing on some of the harder questions that surround queerness and religion, as well as how to find balance and peace in the intersection of queer identity and Christianity. Visit QueerTheology.com for more information about Brian's faith-based activism in partnership with Father Shannon TL Kearns.

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238 - The Polyamory Breakup Book with Kathy Labriola

238 - The Polyamory Breakup Book with Kathy Labriola

We're joined today by Kathy Labriola, author of The Polyamory Breakup Book! We're discussing how to healthily navigate breaking up when in a polyamorous relationship, and some of the unique challenges that polyamorous couples face when it's time to end things.
For more information about Kathy and her book, visit http://www.kathylabriola.com/.

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236 - Progressive Love Academy with Kenya K. Stevens

236 - Progressive Love Academy with Kenya K. Stevens

We're joined by Kenya K. Stevens, one of the founders of the Progressive Love Academy, to talk about her work with coaching members of the polyamorous community and her take on non-traditional relationships. To learn more about Progressive Love Academy, visit its website here: www.progressiveloveacademy.com, or follow @progressive_love_academy on Instagram. For access to Kenya's free gift lecture, visit www.multiamory.com/polyamoryonfleek.

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233 - Polyamory Toolkit with Erotic Awakening

233 - Polyamory Toolkit with Erotic Awakening

We're joined with Dan and Dawn Williams from Erotic Awakening to talk about their book, The Polyamory Toolkit! There are a few tools they go into detail about that can help you process your feelings in your relationships, as well as fun anecdotes from a couple who has been polyamorous for nearly twenty years!

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227 - Rules vs. Agreements feat. Boundaries

227 - Rules vs. Agreements feat. Boundaries

This week, we discuss the differences between rules, agreements, and boundaries, and how sometimes they can hurt a relationship more than help one. We explore how to make informed, healthy decisions with your partner or partners regarding what everyone involved needs in the relationship.

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220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

This is a big question that comes up in non-monogamy, especially when it comes to talking about other partners to one another. So what is the difference between privacy and secrecy. Is there really anything that we should be hiding from our partner? What about power dynamics. Who decides what should be private and what shouldn’t be? What is mine to share? We talk about mental health, STI status, personal boundaries and other relationship dynamics where these questions come into consideration.

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219 - Labels By Any Other Name

219 - Labels By Any Other Name

Millennials don’t do labels these days or do they? Some folks despise labels while others live and die by them. Today we describe labeling the holy trinity - Sexuality, Gender and Relationship Styles. We describe our experiences and difficulties with labeling our own individual selves and how those labels have changed or even evolved over time. 

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217 - Commitment in Non-Monogamy

217 - Commitment in Non-Monogamy

Commitment is so often misunderstood when it comes to non-monogamy. We discuss definitions of commitment and identifying the traditional markers of commitment we've all grown up with. We realize that it can be difficult defining what it means exactly within the confines of non-monogamy as it doesn't necessarily fit the stereotypical mold (but that is nothing new!). Infidelity seems to be the final end all be all when it comes to breaking common commitment rules in monogamous relationships so what are those rules in non-monogamy? In this episode, we get to the bottom of what commitment means in non-monogamy and how to clearly define what commitment is in your relationship. We also learn a brand new term - sociosexuality and how that might apply to you!

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216 - What is Emotional Support?

216 - What is Emotional Support?

So what exactly is emotional support. How do you ask for it? How do you go about learning what kind of emotional support that you need. What kind does your partner need? Even not knowing what kind of support you need in the moment and admitting it can go a long way! On this episode, we explore what emotional support is, what it is not and learning what you need emotionally from a partner. We even cover co-dependence or emotional negligence in a relationship. 

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213 - Relationship Goals

213 - Relationship Goals

RelationshipGoals - No, we're not chatting about the infamous Instagram hashtag. On this episode, we take a trip on the relationship escalator. What does your relationship escalator look like? Does it match your partner's? What happens when you aren't sure? Do those expectations ever change?Sometimes we think we have certain expectations, achieve them and realize it wasn't what we wanted at all. So many questions but what is most important is discovering what your personal relationship goals truly are.

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212- Relationship Baggage

212- Relationship Baggage

Get ready for the travel metaphors! They will be plentiful! We've covered this before in a previous episode, but we think it's time to tackle this subject again. In this episode, we talk about baggage, but not neccessarily all the bad stuff. We talk about evaluating your own personal baggage and what you bring to a relationship. Are you carrying around past experiences that are influencing your future ones? Are you participating in Transference? Is this good or bad? We unpack some strategies on how you can learn to recognize your own baggage, claim it and figure out if it should stay or go. 

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211 - Thinking Critically about Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity

211 - Thinking Critically about Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity

What does Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity actually mean? There is a lot of confusion surrounding these terms. People have a tendancy to throw these terms around with little to no explanation which just seems to add to the confusion. On this episode, we attempt to help define these two terms as best as we can while idetifying the potential problems with each definition. We also discuss some of the evolution and background and history of Sex Negativity and Sex Positivity in the process.

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208 - Failure is an Option

208 - Failure is an Option

Failure is always an option, but it doesn't have to be the end of the world. We hear about failure quite a bit when it comes to schooling and even jobs/career but failure doesn't always get talked about in regard to relationships. It seems to be a dirty word when it comes to relationships because folks can feel ashamed or don't want to drudge up the past. Failure can be scary but avoiding it altogether shouldn't be the ultimate goal. It can sometimes prevent someone from taking action or pursuing a relationship because of the fear of failure. On today's episode, we talk all about failure and how failure can be a part of growth.

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207 - Self-Sabotage

207 - Self-Sabotage

Listen all ya'll, it's a sabotage! Okay this episode isn't really about the famous Beastie Boy song, it's about something much more serious. Self-Sabotage can be a vicious cycle. On this episode, we tackle self-Sabotage in relationships and in life. Procrastination, addiction, self-worth issues and so much more. We also provide some insight on how to recognize when it's happening and stop the cycle. 

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206 - Attraction Perceptions & Misconceptions

206 - Attraction Perceptions & Misconceptions

What exactly IS attraction? How important is attraction? Why are we attracted to certain people or attributes? There are a lot of myths and misconceptions floating around out there. On this episode, we tackle what attraction is, how it affects who we choose as partners and even how attraction is related to sex drive. We look into the research and you might be surprised by what we uncovered.

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205 - Anger is Good for You

205 - Anger is Good for You

Anger is usually viewed as bad or something that should be stifled from a very young age. However, anger can be a force for good too! A lot of folks tend to repress their anger or express it in unhealthy ways. In this episode, we cover how to use your anger in a more positive and constructive way in your relationships. We share some of the ways we've expressed and handled anger in the past and provide ways to use it for the better. 

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204 - Metamour Troubles & Struggles

204 - Metamour Troubles & Struggles

What happens when you don't get along with your metamours? Or perhaps one of your metamours doesn't like you and you feel stuck in the middle. Today, we cover some of the struggles you might face in your polyamorous relationship(s). Things won't always go perfect, so we cover ways on how to properly deal with them and communicate with your partner about it too. 

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