141 - Solving Sexual Incompatibility

141 - Solving Sexual Incompatibility

This week we are talking about sexual incompatibility and infidelity. Opening up about sex is often a challenging and vulnerable part of any relationship, and it can cause some relationships to implode. Today we are going to offer some stits and stats regarding sexual incompatibility, sexual changes over time, and how non-monogamy can shape and help sexual differences in a relationship. We also will talk about infidelity and why it can happen even in seemingly happy relationships.

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133 - 6 Questions You Must Ask Your New Partner

133 - 6 Questions You Must Ask Your New Partner

A long list of "glass ceiling questions" has been floating around the polyamorous internet lately. These are questions that are essential to ask a new partner in order to get down to brass tacks on what kind of agreements or rules they have in their other relationships, what they are expecting for their relationship with you, and other nuts-and-bolts questions. In the spirit of efficiency, Multiamory has condensed these questions down to 6 topics to ask about when starting a new relationship. Even better, we made it easy to remember. Just take your date to the M.O.V.I.E.S.! Tune in to find out more.

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95 - All About Consent with Sex Nerd Sandra

95 - All About Consent with Sex Nerd Sandra

This week the Multiamory crew is very excited to intereview sex educator and podcast host for The Nerdist, Sex Nerd Sandra! Sandra takes us through the complex world of consent within relationships and sexual encounters. We discuss the education about consent, the ways that men and women both respect and violate consent differently, and also about how delicious FRIES are.

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94 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida

94 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida

This week we welcome very special guest Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex Positive Quest for Love. We dig into all kinds of topics in this one: sex positivity, sex party etiquette, being a single hetero man in the swinging scene, quick fixes for handling jealousy at a play party, and just a little bit about butt stuff. 

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74 - Sex Positivity, Sex Negativity, Sex Neutrality

74 - Sex Positivity, Sex Negativity, Sex Neutrality

This week we are trying to pin down the slippery notion of sex positivity. Does it just mean the absence of sex negativity? Does it mean you have to be enthusiastic about all kinds of sex? What if you don't even have sex? We bandy about what "sex neutrality" might mean, as well as illuminate the ways that sex positive communities actually leverage sex negativity in order to escape stigma and seek more acceptance.

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61 - Why the Hell Would You Be Polyamorous?

61 - Why the Hell Would You Be Polyamorous?

Non-traditional relationships draw many different kinds of people from all walks of life and for all different reasons. But why would you choose a lifestyle that is undeniably complicated, full of potential heartbreak, frustration, and vulnerability, and is generally considered to be pretty wacko by most of the population? In this episode we divulge our own reasons for living and loving the way we do, as well as examine many of the most common reasons. Whether you want more sex, less sex, a healthier relationship, or more overall happiness, there are good and bad reasons to try out polyamory.

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53 - A Life Less Monogamous & Old Relationship Energy

53 - A Life Less Monogamous & Old Relationship Energy

The Multiamory crew just read Cooper S. Beckett's new work: A Life Less Monogamous. The book tells the story of a young married couple, on their way to a dead bedroom, who discover the joys and pitfalls of swinging. We share our thoughts on the book, as well as explore some topics that came up in the reading: swinging, group sex, establishing rules, and old relationship energy.

In the poly community, many people talk about NRE (new relationship energy) -- all those great feelings you get when you're falling in love with someone new. But very few people acknowledge old relationship energy -- the bond and established intimacy that is present in a long-lasting relationship. In this episode you'll learn about the joys and potential problems that come with O.R.E.

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51 - Making Safe Sex More Sexy

51 - Making Safe Sex More Sexy

It's time to get safe and sexy with the Multiamory crew! High school health class taught many of us all about the scary and gross parts of STIs, but is that the whole story? In this episode, we discuss facts about STI transmission and clear the air of a lot of the common misinformation and fear-mongering surrounding HPV and HSV. We also give tips on how to talk about safe sex boundaries before you have sex with someone in a way that isn't totally awkward or a mood-killer. With the right information, you can have sex that is both safe and fun -- having your sex cake and eating it too!

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49 - 8 Myths About Polyamory Busted!

49 - 8 Myths About Polyamory Busted!

This week we put on our Mythbusters hats and mustaches! More and more people are becoming aware of polyamorous lifestyles, but there's also a lot of misinformation and misconceptions floating around. Some are silly, some are strange, and some are straight up wrong. We tackle eight of these myths, covering sex and sexuality, jealousy, group relationships, and more.

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