We're joined by Jessica Fern, author of the upcoming book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy. She is also a psychotherapist, public speaker, and relationship and trauma specialist, and this week she's talking with us about trauma and attachment theories, as well as strategies for gaining more secure attachments.

This week we're taking a look at EFT creator Sue Johnson's concept of "demon dialogues," or the choreography we tend to fall in to when fighting or arguing with a partner. We'll cover some common dialogues, as well as methods on how to break out of the choreographic cycle and communicate better.

In the spirit of refreshing and revisiting older concepts, this week we're talking about five different methods to communicate more effectively, both in your romantic relationships and everyday platonic ones.

Have you gone to the repair SHOP? We've talked about how to disagree effectively and what to do during arguments, but what about afterwards, or with subjects that repeatedly come up in disagreements? Try the SHOP acronym: Stories, History, Ownership, and Prevention.

This week, we discuss the differences between rules, agreements, and boundaries, and how sometimes they can hurt a relationship more than help one. We explore how to make informed, healthy decisions with your partner or partners regarding what everyone involved needs in the relationship.

Boundaries are one of the most powerful yet misunderstood tools for having healthy relationships.

Does your partner give you advice when you're looking for support and listening? Give this simple communication hack a try.

If you're a polyamory beginner, or if you need some help answering the questions your relatives are throwing at you, check it out!

Follow our step-by-step process for creating safe, supportive, and productive communication in a monthly relationship check-in.