128 - How to Support Your Partner Through a Break-Up

128 - How to Support Your Partner Through a Break-Up

Break ups suck. They suck a little less if you're not the one going through it, but if it's your partner who's just been dumped, then you may find yourself shouldering the burden of some of their suck as well. In this episode we talk about the ways to care for your partner, your self, and your relationship when your partner is going through a break-up or other turbulent period of life. 

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127 - Relationship Agreement Pitfalls

127 - Relationship Agreement Pitfalls

This week we're discussing agreement pitfalls -- common relationship agreements that seem reasonable, but which may cause trouble in the long run. The Multiamory crew has a pretty firm stance against strict rules in relationships, but there are many agreements that fall into a debatable grey area. Is it fair to make sure you and your partner conduct relationships in the exact same way? Is it ethical to ask a partner to check in with you before they get sexual on a date with someone else? Tune in to hear our thoughts on these questions and more.

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126 - Building Intimacy with Multiamory

126 - Building Intimacy with Multiamory

This week, the Multiamory crew falls in love with each other! (Just kidding. We were already in love with each other.) But really, we delve into the topic of building intimacy, using the famous list of 36 intimacy questions. We encourage you to use these questions to not only get closer to your romantic partners, but your family and friends as well!

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125 - Researching Non-Monogamous Relationships (with researcher Ryan Witherspoon)

This week the Multiamory crew gets to pick the brain of researcher, educator, and Ph.D candidate Ryan Witherpsoon. Ryan has specialized in studying consensual non-monogamy, kink, and BDSM, as well as spearheading several research studies on non-traditional relationships. In this episode, we cover the current state of non-monogamy research, particular challenges that arise when studying polyamorous relationships, and the findings of his most recent study on stigma toward consensual non-monogamy. 

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124 - The Dating Advice Girl Talks Polyamory

124 - The Dating Advice Girl Talks Polyamory

This week we are welcoming special guest Erin Tillman, a.k.a. The Dating Advice Girl. Erin has coached many singles through the process of creating a dating profile and going on dates without getting burnt out in the process. Even better, Erin is tuned in to the polyamorous and queer communities. She shares with us her pro tips on messaging, first dates, and how much to disclose in your dating profile when you're seeking a non-traditional match (or two). 

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122 - Multiamory Answers Your Questions

122 - Multiamory Answers Your Questions

This week we are talking about...you! That's right, this week the Multiamory crew tackles the questions that our listeners left on the Multiamory voicemail line. If you want to have a question answered on the air, you too can leave a voicemail for us at 678-MULTI-05.

Covered in this episode:
-- How can a straight, cisgender man ask for cuddles or affectionate touch without it being interpreted as a come-on?

-- How can I let go of the need to make sure my husband only ever tries new experiences for the first time with me, instead of with other partners?

-- My husband wants our other relationships to be more casual. I want them to be more serious. How do we figure out something that will make both of us happy?

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121 - Social Media and Relationships

121 - Social Media and Relationships

This week, we're talking about the effects of social media on your relationships, and some of the unique challenges presented to non-monogamous relationships. Whether you're creeping on your metamours, or finding yourself nervous about posting openly about your multiple partners, we're here to help you navigate the tricky etiquette and foibles of social media. 

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120 - 7 Strategies for Successful Long-Distance Relationships

120 - 7 Strategies for Successful Long-Distance Relationships

2/3rds of the Multiamory crew is once again heading off for global adventures, which means it's time to talk about long-distance relationships. In this episode, we highlight seven specific strategies that will help your geographically-challenged relationship to flourish and thrive, including tactics for fostering intimacy, communication, and handling the unique challenges presented to multi-partner relationships.

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119 - Asexual Polyamory

119 - Asexual Polyamory

This week the Multiamory crew is happy to talk with The One True Will, former facilitator of the Gracefully Poly Facebook group. Will has identified as both asexual and polyamorous for a number of years, and on this episode he answers all of our n00b questions about the asexuality spectrum, demisexuality, gender dynamics, and...dragons?!?

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118 - Helping Your Partner Open Up

118 - Helping Your Partner Open Up

Whether you're opening up an existing relationship or beginning a relationship with someone who is new to polyamory, it can be challenging to know the best way to encourage them to feel safe venturing into the world of non-monogamy. In this episode we explore different challenges and discuss what we've found to be the most effective strategies and tools for making that experience a positive one...

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117 - Why Do You Want What You Want?

117 - Why Do You Want What You Want?

This week we are tackling the complicated task of deconstructing desire. In life, we often set our sights on accomplishing a particular goal or attaining a particular obejct or status, and the same is true with relationships and sex. In this episode, we dig into the reasons why we want the things that we want, often through socialization, comparisons to other people, and our perceptions of what will make us happy. 

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116 - Being Polyamorous in a Monogamous World (Live Show)

116 - Being Polyamorous in a Monogamous World (Live Show)

In this very special live show, the Multiamory crew digs into the day-to-day foibles of having non-normative relationships in a hetero-mono-normative world. We discuss the uncomfortable consequences of having few outlets and even fewer role models, needing to stay in the closet in order to protect your job or family, and the endless assumptions and misconceptions. But not to fear -- we also cover strategies to help you cope and thrive in a world that may just not understand your weird love life. 

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115 - Cooper S. Beckett on Swinger Resorts and Sexy Vacations

115 -  Cooper S. Beckett on Swinger Resorts and Sexy Vacations

Multiamory is happy to have author, podcast host, and pegging enthusiast Cooper S. Beckett back on the show! Cooper came on our show way back in the early days to discuss his memoir, My Life on the Swingset, and this week we are discussing his brand new novel, Approaching the Swingularity. Join us for a discussion on sexy, swinging vacations, the intersection of swingers and polyamorists, and the delights of pegging. 

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114 - Privilege and Polyamory

114 - Privilege and Polyamory

This week, we are discussing privilege and polyamory -- the different advantages and disadvantages that we often forget about when approaching non-traditional relationships. This is a hot-button topic that often sparks emotions and defensiveness, but we wanted to open up the conversation, daunting as it is. In this episode, we discuss many different factors that affect privilege -- race, class, skin color, gender identity, disability, just to name a few in a very long list. 

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113 - What is Romantic Love? (with philosopher Carrie Jenkins)

113 - What is Romantic Love? (with philosopher Carrie Jenkins)

Multiamory is very excited to sit down with philosopher Carrie Jenkins, author of the newly released book What Love Is and What It Could Be. Carrie has been polyamorous for a number of years, and after having her relationships accused of not embodying "real love," she was inspired to get to the bottom of the age old question: what is love? In this episode, we deconstruct our preconceived ideas of love and commitment, and also why it is important for people in non-monogamous relationships to examine the nature of romantic relationships.

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112 - Choking on the Red Pill

112 - Choking on the Red Pill

This week, the Multiamory crew tackles a divisive and controversial subject: the Red Pill movement. The Red Pill movement, in our estimation, is equal parts men's rights and pick-up artistry, sprinkled with a dose of good old-fashioned misogyny. But a growing number of men are finding community, understanding, and confidence in the Red Pill's tenets. Is there anything good that could possibly come from this movement? Or is it really the sexist cesspool it seems to be on the surface?

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111 - Poly-Friendly Counseling

111 - Poly-Friendly Counseling

If you've hit a particularly sticky bump in your relationship, or if you're interested in doing some preventative maintenance and exploration, it is extremely helpful to seek professional guidance. Speaking with a therapist, counselor, or coach can provide many opportunities to open up and uncover deep-seated habits and patterns, plus really giving yourself and your relationships much-needed clarity. In this episode, we explain the many different varieties of mental health professionals, as well as our recommendations for the best places to find kink- and poly-friendly therapists and counselors.

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110 - Deconstructing Jealousy

110 - Deconstructing Jealousy

We talk a lot about jealousy in the polyamory scene -- how to manage it, how to de-program it, how to communicate with your partners about it. But in this episode, we are going to be deconstructing jealousy -- categorizing specific triggers and their causes. If you have the tools to identify your jealousy triggers, it can open up a lot more happiness and freedom in your relationships. 

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109 - Ethical Unicorn Hunting (Live Show)

109 - Ethical Unicorn Hunting (Live Show)

Unicorn hunters (heterosexual couples seeking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship) get a bad rap in the polyamorous community. But is it possible to defy this stereotype and add a third to your relationship in a way that's ethical, kind, and groovy for all parties involved? In this special live show recorded in Los Angeles, the Multiamory crew discusses the ins and outs of making sure that your unicorn is ethically raised and sourced.

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