151 - Conflict Crash Course

151 - Conflict Crash Course

Conflict and disagreements are unavoidable in relationships, but they don't have to cause pain, negativity, or destruction. In this episode we cover a collection of tools to use before, after, and during fights you have with your partner in order to find constructive resolution and reconection.

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149 - One is (Not) The Loneliest Number

149 - One is (Not) The Loneliest Number

This week we're talking about consciously choosing to stay single! Can staying single be just as emotionally valuable as being in a relationship? We have some surprising statistics as well as a look at how "single" can have a different meaning when you are a relationship anarchist or even if you're polyamorous.

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144 - Multi-Cultural Dating and Culturally Intelligent Relationships (Live Show in Tokyo) / 東京マルチアモリーライブショー

144 - Multi-Cultural Dating and Culturally Intelligent Relationships (Live Show in Tokyo) / 東京マルチアモリーライブショー

The Multiamory crew is in Tokyo! In this very special live episode recorded at Good Heavens British Pub in Setagaya, we discuss how increasing your cultural intelligence can boost your understanding and communication, particularly when dating someone from a very different culture.

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141 - Solving Sexual Incompatibility

141 - Solving Sexual Incompatibility

This week we are talking about sexual incompatibility and infidelity. Opening up about sex is often a challenging and vulnerable part of any relationship, and it can cause some relationships to implode. Today we are going to offer some stits and stats regarding sexual incompatibility, sexual changes over time, and how non-monogamy can shape and help sexual differences in a relationship. We also will talk about infidelity and why it can happen even in seemingly happy relationships.

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140 - The Jealousy Survival Guide (with author Kitty Chambliss)

140 - The Jealousy Survival Guide (with author Kitty Chambliss)

This week we're speaking with Kitty Chambliss, coach, speaker, and author of the soon to be released Jealousy Survival Guide. Kitty shares with us the lessons she's learned as a polyamorous person who still struggles with jealousy and offers her insight and techniques for managing jealousy as it occurs in the moment with grace, ease, and compassion. 

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139 - Love is (Not) All You Need

139 - Love is (Not) All You Need

Multiamory loves The Beatles, but we take issue with the assertion that love is all you need. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of what is traditionally "magical" thinking surrounding love and relationships. If you're in a relationship that is dysfunctional, codependent, or making you miserable all in the name of love, here's where you can learn valuable tools to evaluate whether your relationship has a leg to stand on, or if it may be time to leave. 

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138 - Conscious Monogamy

138 - Conscious Monogamy

What is conscious monogamy? The term gets thrown around on many polyamory and non-monogamy blogs, but there isn't really a set definition for it. This week, we examine the nature of being conscious in one's relationships, whether you're monogamous or not. In contrast, we also highlight a few of the unhealthy forms of traditional monogamy, and ways to bring these qualities of consciousness into a monogamous relationship. 

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137 - Intersectionality and Polyamorous Communities (with therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson)

137 - Intersectionality and Polyamorous Communities (with therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson)

We're very pleased to speak with Ruby Bouie Johnson, sex therapist and founder of PolyDallas Millennium, an annual symposium of presentations and workshops on polyamory with a focus on centering people of color, queer, and gender fluid voices. Ruby shares with us her thoughts on the need for an intersectional focus in poly communities, handling tokenism, and the value that a polyamory- and kink-friendly therapist can bring to a client who may be monogamous or vanilla.

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136 - Healing Old Wounds and Resentment in Relationships

136 - Healing Old Wounds and Resentment in Relationships

Long-term relationships can be fertile ground for wonderful things like deep bonding and silly in-jokes. But they can also come with their fair share of old hurts, repetetive arguments, and growing resentment. If you find your partner holding the past against you, feeling hurt and upset even after you've apologized for something in the past, or if you find yourself resenting your partner in the present for old hurts in the past, then there may be some unhealed wounds in your relationship. In this episode, we cover strategies for both partners to support each other in a journey of healing and acceptance in order to release and heal old wounds. 

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135 - What's Your Apology Language?

135 - What's Your Apology Language?

Our favorite God-doctor Gary Chapman, creator of the 5 Love Languages, has come up with another useful tool for communication: the 5 Apology Languages. Have you ever apologized to your partner for a mistake in the past, only to find that your partner brings it up again a week later, expressing frustration that you never really said you were sorry? What the hell? Was your partner not listening?

It's possible that you and your partner have different apology languages. What felt like a genuine apology to you may have not landed at all with your partner. Tune in to find out more about apology languages and gain some insight for the next time one of you needs to say, "I'm sorry."

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