206 - Attraction Perceptions & Misconceptions

206 - Attraction Perceptions & Misconceptions

What exactly IS attraction? How important is attraction? Why are we attracted to certain people or attributes? There are a lot of myths and misconceptions floating around out there. On this episode, we tackle what attraction is, how it affects who we choose as partners and even how attraction is related to sex drive. We look into the research and you might be surprised by what we uncovered.

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201 - Are you ready to be polyamorous?

201 - Are you ready to be polyamorous?

Is anyone really ever ready? This week we delve into the different signs that determine if you are ready to become polyamorous...or not. We talk about personal attributes that are helpful to have when beginning a new relationship style, red flags to watch out for when you are starting out, and our own personal experiences when we first became polyamorous. 

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88 - Do You Feel Special?

88 - Do You Feel Special?

Most of us enjoy feeling special, particularly to our romantic partners. In traditional relationships, one's specialness is closely linked to exclusivity. You are the person I choose to be monogamous with, therefore you are #1 special person in my life! But when you have multiple partners, this thinking gets turned on its head. This week we discuss how to maintain a sense of specialness in each of your relationships.

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72 - Compersion in Open Relationships

72 - Compersion in Open Relationships

If you've read much about polyamory you've definitely come across the term "compersion." The word was created in the early 90's to fill a gap in the english language and it means the feeling of joy and happiness you have at experiencing another person's joy and happiness. This is an important feeling to cultivate in open relationships because it will make you a better partner and will make you feel happier. But how do you actually do that? 

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68 - Open Relationship Rules, Agreements, and Boundaries

68 - Open Relationship Rules, Agreements, and Boundaries

At Multiamory, we encourage people to avoid making strict rules when opening up their relationship. However, what about agreements? What about setting boundaries? Are those the same thing as rules? Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all frameworks that can be used to protect yourself within a relationship, but there are subtle differences. On this episode we walk you through these differences, and in particular we focus on setting up healthy and effective boundaries for yourself that do not impose rules on your partners or your partners' relationships.

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66 - Polyamorous and Monogamous Orientation

Are some people purely polyamorous and other people are completely monogamous? How can we reconcile these differences? What should I do about jealousy? What kind of polyamorous relationship is right for me?

In our interview with counselor, hypnotherapist, and author Kathy Labriola we get to hear her insights into all of this and more! Some of the topics we cover in this episode...

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65 - Romance and Polyamory

65 - Romance and Polyamory

Our culture is steeped in notions of traditional romance. In so many love songs we hear, "You're the only one for me." Our movies, TV shows, and dozens of other art forms idolize the couple, the soulmates, the star-crossed lovers. Our notions of "romance" are still heavily tied up to sexual exclusivity. If you have multiple partners, how do you get all mushy and romantic when you can't fall back on the usual monogamous phrases? In this episode, we examine the ways that art and media shape our views of romance, as well as ways to make your partners feel special and cared for outside of the language of exclusivity.

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61 - Why the Hell Would You Be Polyamorous?

61 - Why the Hell Would You Be Polyamorous?

Non-traditional relationships draw many different kinds of people from all walks of life and for all different reasons. But why would you choose a lifestyle that is undeniably complicated, full of potential heartbreak, frustration, and vulnerability, and is generally considered to be pretty wacko by most of the population? In this episode we divulge our own reasons for living and loving the way we do, as well as examine many of the most common reasons. Whether you want more sex, less sex, a healthier relationship, or more overall happiness, there are good and bad reasons to try out polyamory.

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