201 - Are you ready to be polyamorous?

201 - Are you ready to be polyamorous?

Is anyone really ever ready? This week we delve into the different signs that determine if you are ready to become polyamorous...or not. We talk about personal attributes that are helpful to have when beginning a new relationship style, red flags to watch out for when you are starting out, and our own personal experiences when we first became polyamorous. 

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196 - Am I Still Polyamorous If...

196 - Am I Still Polyamorous If...

Fortunately, there's no Polyamory Board of Directors who decides who makes the cut or not. However, that doesn't prevent many people from worrying about whether or not they can claim a polyamorous identity. On this episode, we discuss identity, gatekeeping, and common questions that we get: "Am I still polyamorous if I still feel jealousy?" "Am I still polyamorous if I only have one partner?" "Am I still polyamorous if I'm not dating at all?"

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138 - Conscious Monogamy

138 - Conscious Monogamy

What is conscious monogamy? The term gets thrown around on many polyamory and non-monogamy blogs, but there isn't really a set definition for it. This week, we examine the nature of being conscious in one's relationships, whether you're monogamous or not. In contrast, we also highlight a few of the unhealthy forms of traditional monogamy, and ways to bring these qualities of consciousness into a monogamous relationship. 

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118 - Helping Your Partner Open Up

118 - Helping Your Partner Open Up

Whether you're opening up an existing relationship or beginning a relationship with someone who is new to polyamory, it can be challenging to know the best way to encourage them to feel safe venturing into the world of non-monogamy. In this episode we explore different challenges and discuss what we've found to be the most effective strategies and tools for making that experience a positive one...

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103 - Relationship Agreements with Eri Kardos

103 - Relationship Agreements with Eri Kardos

This week we are very pleased to speak with Eri Kardos, international speaker, coach, and author of the newly released book Relationship Agreements. Eri takes us through the basic philosophy of using agreements to strengthen your relationships, whether you are polyamorous or monogamous. We also learn how a small, blue, furry monster named Fred can help change the way you think about your romantic relationships.

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62 - Cowboys and Poly-Prenticing

62 - Cowboys and Poly-Prenticing

This week, we field an intriguing question from one of our listeners. She lives n a small, conservative town without a poly community, and she is constantly ending up in relationships with men who think they can turn her into monogamous wife material. How to avoid this from happening?

This is known as "cowboy-ing" or "cowgirl-ing," and the good news is that it is largely preventable with the right precautions. We take you through the most important things to do before getting into a relationship with someone to ensure that they won't try to change your preferences for non-monogamy later on. We also cover Dedeker's beloved coined word: poly-prenticing! This refers to when you are bringing someone brand new to polyamory into the inner circle, as it were. We give you our best tips for guiding a romantic partner through the transition to non-monogamy.

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