139 - Love is (Not) All You Need

139 - Love is (Not) All You Need

Multiamory loves The Beatles, but we take issue with the assertion that love is all you need. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of what is traditionally "magical" thinking surrounding love and relationships. If you're in a relationship that is dysfunctional, codependent, or making you miserable all in the name of love, here's where you can learn valuable tools to evaluate whether your relationship has a leg to stand on, or if it may be time to leave. 

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132 - The Ethical Slut 20th Anniversary with Janet Hardy

132 - The Ethical Slut 20th Anniversary with Janet Hardy

The Ethical Slut, long considered to be the "Bible" of polyamory and alternative relationships, is celebrating its 20th anniversay with a new, updated edition! The book had an incredible impact on each of our lives, and we are so excited to be speaking to co-author and educator Janet Hardy. Janet shares with us what's new in the updated edition, what she sees for the future of non-monogamous relationships, and her one piece of advice for anyone considering polyamory

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75 - Primary Partners and Priority in Polyamory

75 - Primary Partners and Priority in Polyamory

Whew, that's a lotta P's! After many discussions inspired by our solo polyamory episode a few weeks ago, we decided to revisit the topics of hierarchy and priority. Some people insist that a primary/secondary hierarchy is the only that works for long-term polyamory. After all, if you want a house, kids, and any other number of long-term relationship milestones, most people choose to do that with a single, primary partner. However, we argue that it is possible to enjoy these things either with one partner or multiple partners, but without resorting to establishing a rigid hierarchy. We explore the idea of organic priority within your relationships, rather than prescribing hierarchal roles. 

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59 - Fromance-ships: Hacking Relationship Anarchy

59 - Fromance-ships: Hacking Relationship Anarchy

This week we hit a huge array of topics, including couple privilege, hierarchy, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy. We highlight the numerous ways in which couple privilege is inherently built in and supported by our culture, and how to prevent that thinking from interfering with creating healthy, happy, polyamorous relationships. You'll also find an awesome exercise to help you apply relationship anarchy principles to add value to both your romantic relationships and your friendships.

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