139 - Love is (Not) All You Need

139 - Love is (Not) All You Need

Multiamory loves The Beatles, but we take issue with the assertion that love is all you need. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of what is traditionally "magical" thinking surrounding love and relationships. If you're in a relationship that is dysfunctional, codependent, or making you miserable all in the name of love, here's where you can learn valuable tools to evaluate whether your relationship has a leg to stand on, or if it may be time to leave. 

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136 - Healing Old Wounds and Resentment in Relationships

136 - Healing Old Wounds and Resentment in Relationships

Long-term relationships can be fertile ground for wonderful things like deep bonding and silly in-jokes. But they can also come with their fair share of old hurts, repetetive arguments, and growing resentment. If you find your partner holding the past against you, feeling hurt and upset even after you've apologized for something in the past, or if you find yourself resenting your partner in the present for old hurts in the past, then there may be some unhealed wounds in your relationship. In this episode, we cover strategies for both partners to support each other in a journey of healing and acceptance in order to release and heal old wounds. 

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127 - Relationship Agreement Pitfalls

127 - Relationship Agreement Pitfalls

This week we're discussing agreement pitfalls -- common relationship agreements that seem reasonable, but which may cause trouble in the long run. The Multiamory crew has a pretty firm stance against strict rules in relationships, but there are many agreements that fall into a debatable grey area. Is it fair to make sure you and your partner conduct relationships in the exact same way? Is it ethical to ask a partner to check in with you before they get sexual on a date with someone else? Tune in to hear our thoughts on these questions and more.

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68 - Open Relationship Rules, Agreements, and Boundaries

68 - Open Relationship Rules, Agreements, and Boundaries

At Multiamory, we encourage people to avoid making strict rules when opening up their relationship. However, what about agreements? What about setting boundaries? Are those the same thing as rules? Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all frameworks that can be used to protect yourself within a relationship, but there are subtle differences. On this episode we walk you through these differences, and in particular we focus on setting up healthy and effective boundaries for yourself that do not impose rules on your partners or your partners' relationships.

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