111 - Poly-Friendly Counseling

111 - Poly-Friendly Counseling

If you've hit a particularly sticky bump in your relationship, or if you're interested in doing some preventative maintenance and exploration, it is extremely helpful to seek professional guidance. Speaking with a therapist, counselor, or coach can provide many opportunities to open up and uncover deep-seated habits and patterns, plus really giving yourself and your relationships much-needed clarity. In this episode, we explain the many different varieties of mental health professionals, as well as our recommendations for the best places to find kink- and poly-friendly therapists and counselors.

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110 - Deconstructing Jealousy

110 - Deconstructing Jealousy

We talk a lot about jealousy in the polyamory scene -- how to manage it, how to de-program it, how to communicate with your partners about it. But in this episode, we are going to be deconstructing jealousy -- categorizing specific triggers and their causes. If you have the tools to identify your jealousy triggers, it can open up a lot more happiness and freedom in your relationships. 

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109 - Ethical Unicorn Hunting (Live Show)

109 - Ethical Unicorn Hunting (Live Show)

Unicorn hunters (heterosexual couples seeking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship) get a bad rap in the polyamorous community. But is it possible to defy this stereotype and add a third to your relationship in a way that's ethical, kind, and groovy for all parties involved? In this special live show recorded in Los Angeles, the Multiamory crew discusses the ins and outs of making sure that your unicorn is ethically raised and sourced.

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108 - Solo Polyamory (Live Show)

108 - Solo Polyamory (Live Show)

Multiamory is in Portland! In this special, live-audience episode, we explore solo polyamory. The solo poly crowd is an often-misunderstood, yet significant portion of the non-monogamous community at large, and this week we uncover the many different ways solo polyamory can be practiced, examine couple privilege, and learn all about amatonormativity. 

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107 - A Very Poly Valentine's Day (Live Show)

107 - A Very Poly Valentine's Day (Live Show)

The Multiamory West Coast tour brought the crew to Seattle on February 14th. On this very traditional romantic holiday, we spent some time discussing how people in non-traditional relationships can use this as a time to reflect on the unique qualities each relationship and each partner brings to the table. We also discuss the slightly creepy origins of Valentine's Day itself.

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106 - 7 Habits of Highly Effective Poly People (Live Show)

106 - 7 Habits of Highly Effective Poly People (Live Show)

This week's episode was recorded during Multiamory's very first stop on their West Coast Tour 2017! Every seat in the house at Octopus Literary Salon in Oakland, California was full as we presented a talk on the 7 habits of highly effective polyamorous people. Drawing inspiration from our mentors and role models, we break down the key qualities found in the happiest and healthiest non-traditional relationships. 

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105 - The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory

105 - The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory

Our own Dedeker Winston's book, The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory comes out internationally today and we are so excited to be able to interview her about the book and share our own experiences with reading it. Dedeker talks to us about the importance of creating a book that empowers women to have agency in their relationships and shares some of the insights she gained and experiences she had during the two-year process of writing this comprehensive guide to Polyamory for the modern world. Though the book may be aimed toward women, it's inviting and accessible to anybody regardless of gender.  10/10 Would Recommend!

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104 - Polyamory in Movies and TV (Live Show)

104 - Polyamory in Movies and TV (Live Show)

This is a very special live presentation by the Multiamory crew that took place in Santa Monica on January 20th, 2017. In this episode we are discussing the various ways polyamory and non-monogamous relationships are portrayed in fictional movies, TV, and webseries. From hilarious to touching to bizarre, we explore what stories are currently being told in our mainstream media, including clips from House of Cards, Orange is the New Black, Futurama, and many more.

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103 - Relationship Agreements with Eri Kardos

103 - Relationship Agreements with Eri Kardos

This week we are very pleased to speak with Eri Kardos, international speaker, coach, and author of the newly released book Relationship Agreements. Eri takes us through the basic philosophy of using agreements to strengthen your relationships, whether you are polyamorous or monogamous. We also learn how a small, blue, furry monster named Fred can help change the way you think about your romantic relationships.

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102 - Emotional Responsibility aka Owning Your Shit

102 - Emotional Responsibility aka Owning Your Shit

If you've ever been in a relationship with a human being, chances are you've encountered some emotions within yourself and the other person. Until the day we are dating Vulcans or robots, our relationships will continue to be sticky, emotional, and not always rational. But all is not lost -- a healthy dose of emotional responsibility can go far! In this episode we deconstruct exactly what emotional responsibility is, and how it can bring clarity and calm to moments of conflict. We explore what it looks like if there's not enough emotional responsibility in a relationship, as well as what it may look like if there's too much! 
 

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101 - Gender Non-Conformity 101

101 - Gender Non-Conformity 101

This week on Multiamory, Jase and Emily get all Gender Non-Specific
with our special guest, professional cuddliest and dominatrix, Tate
Ashley!  Tate helps us explore queer theory, gender "extremes" vs.
gender "middle ground", and language and its inefficiency when
referring to gender non-conformity. The three of us also reveal the
childhood experiences that helped shape our own personal gender
identity and sexuality.

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100 - Relationship Resolutions

100 - Relationship Resolutions

It's Multiamory's 100th episode! It's a new season! It's a new year! And that means....New Year's Resolutions. In this episode we are discussing how to make resolutions for your relationships in 2017. However, this isn't your typical discussion on goal-setting. We are going to be taking you through a process to dig deeper into your relationships and uncovering what will be the best driving force for you and your partners in the coming year. 

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99 - I Got 99 Problems but 2016 Ain't One

99 -  I Got 99 Problems but 2016 Ain't One

2016 was a challenging year, but the Multiamory crew is tired of all the doom and gloom. In this episode, we review the good parts of 2016. A lot of great things happened for the Multiamory podcast, for the polyamory community, and for all three of us! Join us in generating some positivity to combat all the crap that happened in 2016.

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98 - Happy Poly-Days Part 2: This Time It's Personal

98 - Happy Poly-Days Part 2: This Time It's Personal

The holidays are upon us, and so is the holiday stress! This week we are talking about all the aspects of the holidays that makes us fall into a temporary stress-induced insanity. We also give insights on managing the holidays with multiple partners and how to tackle coming out to your family members. But most exciting of all, we play a very special Christmas edition of Two Truths and a Lie. 

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97 - Agile Scrum Your Relationships

97 - Agile Scrum Your Relationships

This week we are discussing a unique communication system to try out in your relationships: agile scrum. The agile scrum system was originally developed to be applied to software development, but writer Alanna Krause adapted the system to become a new system for communication in her relationship The Multiamory crew tested out holding monthly scrum meetings with our partners, and today we're going to tell you all about the results!  

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96 - Poly Storytelling and Diversity with Director Jackie Stone

96 - Poly Storytelling and Diversity with Director Jackie Stone

This week we are excited to speak with Jackie Stone, director of the poly-themed web series, Compersion. Jackie shares with us her inspiration to tell the story of a monogamous couple opening up their marriage, and her commitment to bringing gritty realism to her storytelling. We also open up the discussion surrounding race, diversity, and representation of people of color within the media and within the poly community itself.

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95 - All About Consent with Sex Nerd Sandra

95 - All About Consent with Sex Nerd Sandra

This week the Multiamory crew is very excited to intereview sex educator and podcast host for The Nerdist, Sex Nerd Sandra! Sandra takes us through the complex world of consent within relationships and sexual encounters. We discuss the education about consent, the ways that men and women both respect and violate consent differently, and also about how delicious FRIES are.

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94 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida

94 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida

This week we welcome very special guest Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex Positive Quest for Love. We dig into all kinds of topics in this one: sex positivity, sex party etiquette, being a single hetero man in the swinging scene, quick fixes for handling jealousy at a play party, and just a little bit about butt stuff. 

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93 - Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First

93 - Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First

At Multiamory, we generally discourage people from building their relationships on a basis of strict, primary-secondary hierarchy. However, primary-secondary relationships are still very common in the polyamorous community. All three of us have engaged in these kind of relationships at one point or another, for better or worse. In this episode, we talk about the experience of being a secondary partner, and we give our advice to secondaries for crafting relationships that will keep them safe, happy, and sane.

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92 - Should You Come Out of the Closet?

92 - Should You Come Out of the Closet?

Coming out to partners, family, friends, or co-workers about being polyamorous is an important decision that could potentially change your life and your relationships, for better or worse. In this episode, we run you through the most important risks and benefits to consider before deciding to come out to someone important. 

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