236 - Progressive Love Academy with Kenya K. Stevens

236 - Progressive Love Academy with Kenya K. Stevens

We're joined by Kenya K. Stevens, one of the founders of the Progressive Love Academy, to talk about her work with coaching members of the polyamorous community and her take on non-traditional relationships. To learn more about Progressive Love Academy, visit its website here: www.progressiveloveacademy.com, or follow @progressive_love_academy on Instagram. For access to Kenya's free gift lecture, visit www.multiamory.com/polyamoryonfleek.

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233 - Polyamory Toolkit with Erotic Awakening

233 - Polyamory Toolkit with Erotic Awakening

We're joined with Dan and Dawn Williams from Erotic Awakening to talk about their book, The Polyamory Toolkit! There are a few tools they go into detail about that can help you process your feelings in your relationships, as well as fun anecdotes from a couple who has been polyamorous for nearly twenty years!

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232 - Criticism or How To Doom Your Relationship

232 - Criticism or How To Doom Your Relationship

Is there a way to offer criticism effectively? It's important to distinguish between constructive criticism and destructive criticism, and to put thought into some of the ways you might be overly critical. In this episode, we explore the best way to manage criticism in a relationship and how to refrain from being destructively critical with a partner.

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228 - Pursuit and Withdrawal

228 - Pursuit and Withdrawal

We’re talking about “pursuit and withdrawal,” a common behavioral pattern we see crop up in relationships when the people involved are trying to process disagreements and conflict. We’ll be identifying exactly how pursuers and withdrawers behave, and some steps you can take to prevent falling into this pattern when you have issues or conflict within a relationship.

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227 - Rules vs. Agreements feat. Boundaries

227 - Rules vs. Agreements feat. Boundaries

This week, we discuss the differences between rules, agreements, and boundaries, and how sometimes they can hurt a relationship more than help one. We explore how to make informed, healthy decisions with your partner or partners regarding what everyone involved needs in the relationship.

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221 - Precious Moments - A Best of Episode

221 - Precious Moments - A Best of Episode

It’s time for our Patron’s favorite moments! This episode was created by suggestions from our awesome private Patreon group members. We asked Patron’s what some of their favorite moments have been on the show and these are just a few of some of their favorite moments. Find out which moments made the list and we've love to hear your feedback about future episodes like this!

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220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

This is a big question that comes up in non-monogamy, especially when it comes to talking about other partners to one another. So what is the difference between privacy and secrecy. Is there really anything that we should be hiding from our partner? What about power dynamics. Who decides what should be private and what shouldn’t be? What is mine to share? We talk about mental health, STI status, personal boundaries and other relationship dynamics where these questions come into consideration.

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219 - Labels By Any Other Name

219 - Labels By Any Other Name

Millennials don’t do labels these days or do they? Some folks despise labels while others live and die by them. Today we describe labeling the holy trinity - Sexuality, Gender and Relationship Styles. We describe our experiences and difficulties with labeling our own individual selves and how those labels have changed or even evolved over time. 

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218 - I've HALTed. Now What?

218 - I've HALTed. Now What?

Let's chat about the acronym HALT, which stands for - Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. We also like to include horny, drinking and sick to the mix but HHALTDS just doesn't have the same ring to it. This acronym is used often in addiciton recovery to encourage an addict to check in with themselves and see what is causing their urge to use. We also like to use it for relationship checkins AND actually halting and taking time to process. So once you've halted, now what do you do? On this episode, we talk about what it means to HALT, why you should HALT and what to do next. We've got some strategies for you to make the best of this HALT period. 

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