140 - The Jealousy Survival Guide (with author Kitty Chambliss)

140 - The Jealousy Survival Guide (with author Kitty Chambliss)

This week we're speaking with Kitty Chambliss, coach, speaker, and author of the soon to be released Jealousy Survival Guide. Kitty shares with us the lessons she's learned as a polyamorous person who still struggles with jealousy and offers her insight and techniques for managing jealousy as it occurs in the moment with grace, ease, and compassion. 

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138 - Conscious Monogamy

138 - Conscious Monogamy

What is conscious monogamy? The term gets thrown around on many polyamory and non-monogamy blogs, but there isn't really a set definition for it. This week, we examine the nature of being conscious in one's relationships, whether you're monogamous or not. In contrast, we also highlight a few of the unhealthy forms of traditional monogamy, and ways to bring these qualities of consciousness into a monogamous relationship. 

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129 - Multiamory Answers Your Questions (Vol. II)

129 - Multiamory Answers Your Questions (Vol. II)

This week we are talking about...you! That's right, this week the Multiamory crew tackles the questions that our listeners left on the Multiamory voicemail line. If you want to have a question answered on the air, you too can leave a voicemail for us at 678-MULTI-05.

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110 - Deconstructing Jealousy

110 - Deconstructing Jealousy

We talk a lot about jealousy in the polyamory scene -- how to manage it, how to de-program it, how to communicate with your partners about it. But in this episode, we are going to be deconstructing jealousy -- categorizing specific triggers and their causes. If you have the tools to identify your jealousy triggers, it can open up a lot more happiness and freedom in your relationships. 

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94 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida

94 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida

This week we welcome very special guest Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex Positive Quest for Love. We dig into all kinds of topics in this one: sex positivity, sex party etiquette, being a single hetero man in the swinging scene, quick fixes for handling jealousy at a play party, and just a little bit about butt stuff. 

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86 - Sustainable Relationships

86 - Sustainable Relationships

Sustainability means making decisions that address the needs of the present without compromising the needs of the future. The term is most often applied to environmental policy, but how does the concept of sustainability apply to relationships? Are poly relationships more sustainable than monogamous ones? 

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82 - Multiple Attachment Styles for Multiple Partners

82 - Multiple Attachment Styles for Multiple Partners

This week we are discussing the theory of attachment in adults. That may sound daunting, but it's actually quite simple. Your individual attachment style is how you react when a particular relationship experiences separation, threat, or pressure. Some people react by becoming clingy and impulsive, and others react by pushing the other person away. In this episode we discuss the four main categories of attachment style, and how these may manifest differently in multiple relationships.

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72 - Compersion in Open Relationships

72 - Compersion in Open Relationships

If you've read much about polyamory you've definitely come across the term "compersion." The word was created in the early 90's to fill a gap in the english language and it means the feeling of joy and happiness you have at experiencing another person's joy and happiness. This is an important feeling to cultivate in open relationships because it will make you a better partner and will make you feel happier. But how do you actually do that? 

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64 - Can Jealousy Be A Good Thing?

64 - Can Jealousy Be A Good Thing?

Everyone worries about the potential of jealousy in non-monogamous relationships. We at Multiamory spend a lot of our time dissecting jealousy and strategizing how to manage and transform it. But we have yet to ask the question: are there ever times when jealousy is a good thing?

We examine some of the most common ways that we justify our jealous feelings, playing them off as protectiveness, discernment, or even as a sign of the depth of our love for someone else. In this episode, we dig in to what the true positive sides of jealousy may be, and how to harness them for your own personal growth.

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60 - Self-Empowered Relationships

60 - Self-Empowered Relationships

When confronted with the concept of polyamory, many people say that they are just too jealous of a person to try it. But we've recently encountered a number of people who have said, "I just don't have the self-esteem and self-confidence for that!" The irony is that we have all felt a huge increase in self-esteem, self-confidence, and all-around self-empowerment since making the decision to become non-monogamous. This week, we give you our best advice for having relationships that empower you instead of drain you, supporting you instead of undermining your happiness.

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50 - 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy

50 - 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives -- at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you're in an alternative relationship.

The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and in this episode we share with you five tactics for turning your jealousy dragon into a cute little shoulder lizard. (That's a thing, right?)

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49 - 8 Myths About Polyamory Busted!

49 - 8 Myths About Polyamory Busted!

This week we put on our Mythbusters hats and mustaches! More and more people are becoming aware of polyamorous lifestyles, but there's also a lot of misinformation and misconceptions floating around. Some are silly, some are strange, and some are straight up wrong. We tackle eight of these myths, covering sex and sexuality, jealousy, group relationships, and more.

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46 - Dancing with Myself

46 - Dancing with Myself

For those of you with your heads in the gutter, this episode of the Multiamory podcast is not about masturbation, but rather how to maintain a healthy polyamorous relationship with yourself.  We welcome back our good friends Brooke and Johnny to help explore how to take care of yourself while juggling the day to day challenges of maintaining multiple relationships...

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