Today we're bringing back a popular episode on relationship conflict. We're talking about three different patterns that show up in conflicts, how to recognize which one is showing up for yourself, and discuss some ways to disrupt the pattern and create new choreography with your partner(s).

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This week we're looking at conflict in relationships, what you can do to make sure conflict isn't negatively affecting your relationship, some research on it and some ways we can apply these lessons to our everyday lives, whether that's in a romantic relationship or another type of relationship. We'll be looking at some common patterns of unhealthy conflict, some specific research studies on it, and some actionable takeaways to improve how we can do better when engaging in conflict.

It's time to go back for repairs again for a bit...instead of talking about fallout after a fight, however, this episode covers ways to get your fights with partners back on track. When your fights start to get out of hand, it's important to recognize what's happening and implement ways to de-escalate further issues.

The dumpster fire relationship: you know it when you see it. Constant fights, endless drama, and an umatched level of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion. In this episode, we'll discuss signs that your relationship might be a total dumpster fire, how to evaluate whether or not it's time to leave, plus practical advice on escaping a draining relationship with minimal collateral damage

Love and science finally hook up. The results? Sexy. This week we're covering all the things that will make your relationships better, backed by scientific studies. We cover communication, fighting, sex, in-jokes, and more!