220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

This is a big question that comes up in non-monogamy, especially when it comes to talking about other partners to one another. So what is the difference between privacy and secrecy. Is there really anything that we should be hiding from our partner? What about power dynamics. Who decides what should be private and what shouldn’t be? What is mine to share? We talk about mental health, STI status, personal boundaries and other relationship dynamics where these questions come into consideration.

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109 - Ethical Unicorn Hunting (Live Show)

109 - Ethical Unicorn Hunting (Live Show)

Unicorn hunters (heterosexual couples seeking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship) get a bad rap in the polyamorous community. But is it possible to defy this stereotype and add a third to your relationship in a way that's ethical, kind, and groovy for all parties involved? In this special live show recorded in Los Angeles, the Multiamory crew discusses the ins and outs of making sure that your unicorn is ethically raised and sourced.

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52 - What to Do When You Want to Snoop

52 - What to Do When You Want to Snoop

Everyone knows snooping through a partner's phone or computer is the wrong thing to do. So why is it so common? According to one study, 2/3rds of romantic relationships have involved snooping behavior of some kind.

So you don't need us to tell you to just not do it. Instead, we discuss what to do when you do feel the temptation to snoop. In this episode you'll find tips for using an urge to spy on your partner as an opportunity to grow, as well as how to get the full story from your partner without resorting to snooping.

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