93 - Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First

93 - Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First

At Multiamory, we generally discourage people from building their relationships on a basis of strict, primary-secondary hierarchy. However, primary-secondary relationships are still very common in the polyamorous community. All three of us have engaged in these kind of relationships at one point or another, for better or worse. In this episode, we talk about the experience of being a secondary partner, and we give our advice to secondaries for crafting relationships that will keep them safe, happy, and sane.

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55 - 5 Ways to Help Your Partners Get Along

55 - 5 Ways to Help Your Partners Get Along

Culturally, we aren't presented with a lot of advice for getting long with your metamours -- your partner's partners. After all, they're your competition, right? Not necessarily. Many poly resources and educators give tips on how to get along with your metamours, but there's not much advice out there on what to do if you're in the middle!

If you're the hinge in a V-shaped relationship, there is so much you can do to help foster an environment that enables peaceful, non-competitive relationships between your partners. In this episode, we explain 5 different things that are absolutely necessary in order to make sure that all of your partners feel like they are on the same team.

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