113 - What is Romantic Love? (with philosopher Carrie Jenkins)

113 - What is Romantic Love? (with philosopher Carrie Jenkins)

Multiamory is very excited to sit down with philosopher Carrie Jenkins, author of the newly released book What Love Is and What It Could Be. Carrie has been polyamorous for a number of years, and after having her relationships accused of not embodying "real love," she was inspired to get to the bottom of the age old question: what is love? In this episode, we deconstruct our preconceived ideas of love and commitment, and also why it is important for people in non-monogamous relationships to examine the nature of romantic relationships.

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107 - A Very Poly Valentine's Day (Live Show)

107 - A Very Poly Valentine's Day (Live Show)

The Multiamory West Coast tour brought the crew to Seattle on February 14th. On this very traditional romantic holiday, we spent some time discussing how people in non-traditional relationships can use this as a time to reflect on the unique qualities each relationship and each partner brings to the table. We also discuss the slightly creepy origins of Valentine's Day itself.

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88 - Do You Feel Special?

88 - Do You Feel Special?

Most of us enjoy feeling special, particularly to our romantic partners. In traditional relationships, one's specialness is closely linked to exclusivity. You are the person I choose to be monogamous with, therefore you are #1 special person in my life! But when you have multiple partners, this thinking gets turned on its head. This week we discuss how to maintain a sense of specialness in each of your relationships.

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65 - Romance and Polyamory

65 - Romance and Polyamory

Our culture is steeped in notions of traditional romance. In so many love songs we hear, "You're the only one for me." Our movies, TV shows, and dozens of other art forms idolize the couple, the soulmates, the star-crossed lovers. Our notions of "romance" are still heavily tied up to sexual exclusivity. If you have multiple partners, how do you get all mushy and romantic when you can't fall back on the usual monogamous phrases? In this episode, we examine the ways that art and media shape our views of romance, as well as ways to make your partners feel special and cared for outside of the language of exclusivity.

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