67 - How to Talk to Your Partner about Polyamory

67 - How to Talk to Your Partner about Polyamory

This week, the Multiamory crew addresses question we get from our listeners all the time: how do I broach the subject of opening up my relationship? If you’re currently in a monogamous relationship, and you’re curious about opening it up, even the thought of suggesting it to your significant other may be unnerving.

In this episode, we give you specific strategies for bringing up the conversation and taking your first steps together toward opening your relationship. We’ll give you tactics to approach this talk in a way that’s unthreatening, collaborative, and will ideally be as comfortable as possible for both of you.

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65 - Romance and Polyamory

65 - Romance and Polyamory

Our culture is steeped in notions of traditional romance. In so many love songs we hear, "You're the only one for me." Our movies, TV shows, and dozens of other art forms idolize the couple, the soulmates, the star-crossed lovers. Our notions of "romance" are still heavily tied up to sexual exclusivity. If you have multiple partners, how do you get all mushy and romantic when you can't fall back on the usual monogamous phrases? In this episode, we examine the ways that art and media shape our views of romance, as well as ways to make your partners feel special and cared for outside of the language of exclusivity.

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62 - Cowboys and Poly-Prenticing

62 - Cowboys and Poly-Prenticing

This week, we field an intriguing question from one of our listeners. She lives n a small, conservative town without a poly community, and she is constantly ending up in relationships with men who think they can turn her into monogamous wife material. How to avoid this from happening?

This is known as "cowboy-ing" or "cowgirl-ing," and the good news is that it is largely preventable with the right precautions. We take you through the most important things to do before getting into a relationship with someone to ensure that they won't try to change your preferences for non-monogamy later on. We also cover Dedeker's beloved coined word: poly-prenticing! This refers to when you are bringing someone brand new to polyamory into the inner circle, as it were. We give you our best tips for guiding a romantic partner through the transition to non-monogamy.

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61 - Why the Hell Would You Be Polyamorous?

61 - Why the Hell Would You Be Polyamorous?

Non-traditional relationships draw many different kinds of people from all walks of life and for all different reasons. But why would you choose a lifestyle that is undeniably complicated, full of potential heartbreak, frustration, and vulnerability, and is generally considered to be pretty wacko by most of the population? In this episode we divulge our own reasons for living and loving the way we do, as well as examine many of the most common reasons. Whether you want more sex, less sex, a healthier relationship, or more overall happiness, there are good and bad reasons to try out polyamory.

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60 - Self-Empowered Relationships

60 - Self-Empowered Relationships

When confronted with the concept of polyamory, many people say that they are just too jealous of a person to try it. But we've recently encountered a number of people who have said, "I just don't have the self-esteem and self-confidence for that!" The irony is that we have all felt a huge increase in self-esteem, self-confidence, and all-around self-empowerment since making the decision to become non-monogamous. This week, we give you our best advice for having relationships that empower you instead of drain you, supporting you instead of undermining your happiness.

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59 - Fromance-ships: Hacking Relationship Anarchy

59 - Fromance-ships: Hacking Relationship Anarchy

This week we hit a huge array of topics, including couple privilege, hierarchy, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy. We highlight the numerous ways in which couple privilege is inherently built in and supported by our culture, and how to prevent that thinking from interfering with creating healthy, happy, polyamorous relationships. You'll also find an awesome exercise to help you apply relationship anarchy principles to add value to both your romantic relationships and your friendships.

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55 - 5 Ways to Help Your Partners Get Along

55 - 5 Ways to Help Your Partners Get Along

Culturally, we aren't presented with a lot of advice for getting long with your metamours -- your partner's partners. After all, they're your competition, right? Not necessarily. Many poly resources and educators give tips on how to get along with your metamours, but there's not much advice out there on what to do if you're in the middle!

If you're the hinge in a V-shaped relationship, there is so much you can do to help foster an environment that enables peaceful, non-competitive relationships between your partners. In this episode, we explain 5 different things that are absolutely necessary in order to make sure that all of your partners feel like they are on the same team.

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50 - 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy

50 - 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives -- at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you're in an alternative relationship.

The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and in this episode we share with you five tactics for turning your jealousy dragon into a cute little shoulder lizard. (That's a thing, right?)

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